13 June 2010

Gamer Widowhood?

I have been ruminating on the events of this video for a few days now, a video I'm pretty sure some if not all of you may have seen by now.

Let me say up front, I don't play WoW. I tried to get into Star Trek online, and I just don't have the temperament for MMORPGs. However, I have on occasion poured innumerable hours into a project and while I cannot speak for gamers as whole, I can speak based on both my experience as a geek and as a girl...

Here's the video-

First, I hope that was his apartment they were in and I hope he threw her on her ass then and there.

Second, that was a truly despicable thing for her to do. I understand the "gamer widowhood" syndrome that some ladies feel they are a victim of. Their husband/boyfriend spends too much time playing video games and not enough time with them. I get it, really I do. But ladies, I have a secret for you...

No one is making you stay with that guy.

How he spends his time is his own damn business and if he isn't fulfilling your needs, find someone else who will. You don't like that he plays World of Warcraft all the time? There are millions of guys out there that think WoW is a seventies cover band.

What you don't do is be a passive-aggressive bitch about it and undo countless hours of his hard work. It doesn't matter that it was in a game, he assigned value to it which makes it valuable. Your perceived notion that it is not valuable has no bearing on this situation.

I feel so much pain for that guy and I hope he walked into the other and room and said two words to her, "Get out."


  1. If someone logs into your warcraft account and deletes your characters, it is 100% your fault, not theirs. I agree his girlfriend or whatever is an awful person for doing it, but she clearly had his password.

    Plus, the guy demonstrates nothing but poor decision making skills throughout the whole video.

    1: He's clearly dating the wrong girl.
    2: He gave anyone his password to anything.
    3: Check out the awful sleeves on both forearms.
    4: He assigns blame to his monitor.
    5: Customer service can restore his account.
    6: He plays Alliance.


  2. Jesse Farrell15 June, 2010 00:40

    Right. And had he foolishly left his bankcard PIN lying around, he'd be the only one accountable had she taken all his money.

    Come on.

    It doesn't matter that it's "just" a game, or that he- in his own home- left his password available where his girlfriend could find it. Irrespective of whether or not he's a good boyfriend or a bad one, or whether or not the game itself is worthwhile, this is something important to him which someone he trusted ruined. It would be no different than if she burnt his stamp collection or scratched all his records: she had no right to do it. And as The Heroine correctly points out, if this woman wasn't getting the attention she thought she deserved, she could have walked away.

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